This a sort of out of order list of things that would bother me if they changed too drastically due to the boys being at school. Again some things have more weight in my mind than others.
- They need to still be able spend valuable family time together eg dinner together as much as possible and free time on the weekends, not overtaken by school projects/homework.
- They need to be willing to play with each other and to still be understanding when their siblings are at different levels of skill and understanding.
- I won't tolerate name calling, or derogatory remarks about other's achievements or lack of skills. I will be very firm on this as it is something that I have always had a zero tolerance for and if the school influence is so strong that I am constantly battling this issue it will be a big deal.
- I would like to hear that the boys treat each other well at school and do not get so influenced by peer pressure that they won't "play" with a sibling if they are lonely or struggling.
- I would like them to have friends that are willing to visit for playdates outside school hours. If friendships are only at school I really don't see much difference to how our homeschooling experience in this small town is working out and I will re-evaluate the "value" of school for socialising.
- The boys need to be "allowed" to work at their own level with a bit of encouragement for improving. I don't want to see them held back and getting bored or pushed so hard that they are not able to overcome the stress of working a little harder to achieve a better result.
- Our health has always been pretty good and I value it. If more than 2 weeks are lost each term due to viruses going through the family then I will not be pleased. Of course I know the first term could be rough, new environment and all that, and second not so good with change of season stuff, but by halfway through the year I would hope they are not coming home with a new bug every few weeks. It would really be hard to be "sick" all the time, very tiring.
Jen
Hi Jen. I can understand all of your concerns. With one returning to school (High school) after 2 years of home ed, I have slight variations on similar concerns. HOpefully you have found a school that will work with your expectations as far as child-led pace of learning. Some do seem better than others at this. Likewise for the acceptance of siblings playing together.
ReplyDeleteI can really relate to the illness concern; in addition to viruses, keep an eye out for head lice and intestinal worms; we had regular bouts with both through primary school. Yuck.
I hope it all goes as smoothly as possible for you all.
Joanne (from TRP)
Oh yuk! I had forgotten about those little blighters! Over 14 years we have not had a single nit yet, and only one bout of worms which was a one off in the last 6 months probably due to the youngest and handwashing skills being a bit immature. My medical costs may end up going up while school costs may go down. Urgh!
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Hey Jen, here's wishing you a very happy, carefree summer holiday with the boys before they (and you) start their Very Big Adventure.
ReplyDeleteHi Jen! Wishing you all the best, and hope it all goes smoothly. May God's blessings be upon you.
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