Self Discipline

I am learning what self discipline is... it's the habit of making choices in each and every moment of taking actions that are in line with your goals. 

I always thought self discipline was more about grit/determination/something hard, but I am realising that making choices is easy.  I am always making choices, just sometimes it might be to stay up late even though I know it will make the next day hard to manage, or to eat the leftovers just because they are there even though it means my weight will continue to be in the overweight zone instead of the healthy zone.  I can choose to mull over something so much it causes me a huge amount of anguish or I can choose to let it go and do what I can now, in this moment.

Self discipline is not about gritting my teeth, it is about having a clear vision of what I want my life to be and then picking the choices in every moment that make it easier to be what I want.  If  I "made a bad choice" in the last moment it doesn't have to dictate the choice I make in the next moment.  I can put myself back on track towards my goals at any moment because I have the power to choose how I act and react to my world.

Over time I am hoping that making choices in alignment with my bigger picture of my life and the lives I am involved in becomes easier, a habit if you like.  Right now I am not going to kick myself over the choices I have made in the past.  I choose to move on, to make a different choice.

I choose a better life, one of my vision, not of blah!

Best wishes
Jen

Socialising Mum

After many years of whinging about having no friends, and staying home an awful lot, I started a homeschool activity at my local PCYC.  I live in a small town in a big region, and while it seems others can travel further for activities I have found it too disruptive to both my time and my budget to attend many of these activities.

It has been scary in a way as a mum who has been kid focused for so many years to stick my neck out and arrange this activity, but you know what, it has been worth  it!  I am meeting new people, my kids are getting to play with kids their own ages (yup, an activity that suits all my boys from 4 to almost 14), it isn't costing me the earth in fuel or time or activity costs, and I think we may just be creating a new vibe in this town of just how many homeschoolers are out there and that we are a pretty nice group of people, not members of some weird hippy commune.

I am very grateful to the homeschoolers who have supported "my" activity so far and I am also grateful to my local PCYC for their acceptance of our group for an activity in a way that has made it easy to organise and keep going for a second term.  I really hope we can do this for quite some time as our town really needs it's homeschooling voice to be heard and we all need some local support ourselves in this very different adventure of life.

Best wishes
Jen